Since when did PIMP mean primp

Marie Claire has an article this month entitled “How to Pimp your pad“. It’s apparently a single girl’s guide to decorating her new place. 

Let’s have a little language lesson. 

According to Merriam-Webster Dictionary:

PIMP: a man who solicits clients for a prostitute

Or…TO PIMP: to make use of often dishonorably for one’s own gain or benefit

Now, how does this apply to redecorating, to sprucing, primping, applying paint, buying new furniture, hanging a painting????

Remodeling is not quite the same as sexual exploitation now is it. And I get the whole “let’s take back the language” thing. I think it is of great value to take a term that was originally created to demean or offend and make it part of everyday speech. Language looses a lot of power when it is in the right hands. My gay friend calls her girlfriend a dyke all the time. And I laugh at my friend as I call her a slut for being flirty. The list goes on. But re-associating pimp as a decorative term is just fucked. We are making the word pimp into something cool, trendy and beneficial. 

It pissed me off when a bunch of gangster wannabes started “Pimp my ride” but for a women’s magazine that considers itself quite feminist to use that term, Wow. 

Pimps aren’t cool. Pimp and Ho parties aren’t cool. ‘It’s hard out here for a pimp’ winning an Academy Award: not cool. So let’s maybe think twice before we throw trendy language out there without even thinking about what it signifies. K.

“I feel like my place is a little run down and not too stylish, thank goodness for Marie Claire, I can now go find a vulnerable women, who is most likely poor and drug addicted and I can take advantage of her, convince her that I’ll help her out, send guys who want to fuck her her way and then take half the profit. Oh, you meant the new definition of pimp. Sprinkle with colour and make a place homey. Shame on me for thinking that the term from the 1600s applied here.”

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Olympic Objectification

This really pisses me off.

Here we have the best female athletes in the world, competing in highly demanding sports, and still, the cameras and the press must objectify the female athletes and reduce them to body parts. First of all, screw you cameraguy for the Associated Press who thinks it’s perfectly alright to take extreme closeup ass shots, and secondly screw you Globe and Mail for including this sexist piece of shit in your daily photo montage re-cap of the day in Beijing. 

This volleyball player for Brasil has a face. She probably has a pretty bad ass spike and a super fabulous serve, but instead thanks to the bullshit that is the “rule” that women volleyball payers must wear bikinis, and the assholes who think it’s fine to make world class athletes into sexy models upon which to gaze and lust after, she is just a tight little ass. 

Show some respect to these women athletes. Sex is everywhere…..everywhere. Women’s bodies and body parts are everywhere. Why can’t we look to these athletes at the olympics as models of strength, perseverance, stamina and determination and not just, with one quick snap of the zoom lens, sportporn.

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Americans happier without kids

Have a gander at the latest issue of Newsweek and you’ll come across an article exploring research from several sources revealing that most Americans describe themselves as happier when they are childless. Americans with children, feel that their children make them more unhappy. 

Contrary to popular belief, parents are not declaring their undying happiness derived from their bundles of joy. They feel a greater sense of purpose, but not happiness. How tragic. This is really sad. But I truly beleive it is a product of the modern North American model or living and parenting.

Basically, tell me how a family of four, in our culture is supposed to live. Mom and dad get up, get the kids ready, shuffle them to school, go to their jobs, work all day, run errands at lunch, pick the kids up, get dinner, cook dinner, clean, help kids with homework, take kids to play dates, sport practice, bla bla bla, watch TV and pass out in bed. This is a horrendous way to live everyday.

Now not all families live this way, and some days, of course, are going to unfold like this but I really think that life is very different in Europe for families and for three main reasons:

1) VACATION: Europeans have 5-6 weeks vacation. In addition to this, many have flexi time, they have time off for doctors appointments, they have schedules that allow them to wait at home for the repairperson to fix the fridge. How do families live in America with only two weeks vacation? Ten days to spend outside of work a year? This is insane. Families don’t have anytime to devote to each other. And then, when you go home, all you have to face are chores and responsibilities and never a good time. Most of the Euro families I know take off for a full month every year. They go to the beach, they go camping, they go see relatives. The whole family, together. Now trust me, this quality time keeps families closer, teens out of trouble, couples having sex. And I can’t understand why North Americans only receive two weeks vacation. Show me people working on a Friday afternoon. Just show them to me. Instead, many Europeans actually work all week long so that they can get everything done for their vacations. 

2) SUBURBIA, no offense to the many of you who live in American suburbia, but when life revolves around driving to big boxes, you can’t possibly feel very happy. Now big boxes exist in Europe, but the majority of people live in centres so that they can walk, bike or take a train everywhere they go. Walk to the local butcher, grab a bouquet of flowers from the street vendor, pick up a fresh pie and a baguette at the baker. This is so much more desirable to fighting the masses at Costco so that you can fill the freezer with pre-made dinners no? If I had to spend two-three of my free hours everyday in traffic or line-ups that smell like ketchup, I would be pretty miserable as well. It’s pretty fantastic when you can really live off everything in your own community. 

3) CRAZY PARENTING: child-centred parenting is just that. And when you make your whole life revolve solely around your child, something is going to give and your own happiness is likely. Parents forget they need to enjoy their lives and wether it is doing family activities that everyone can enjoy or having nights off for dates and for fun and relaxation: it’s necessary.

How insane is it that most parents describe their children as a source of unhappiness? One survey found that parents were happier grocery shopping or sleeping than they were spending time with their kids. Ouch. 

Doesn’t this raise some red flags that things need to change. No one wants a life that revolves around chores or 100% sacrifice to keep up with play dates. So why are parents making themselves so unhappy? It’s time to look at how they are living their lives and what are some of the underlying problems. Because while I am sure parenting is not always easy and can take a lot of time and stress, shouldn’t it be enjoyable to have children? Seriously. 

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Why women aren’t having kids

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A recent article/book in the New York Times takes a look at the declining populations in Europe. 

It pretty much goes on to say that embracing the realities of a declining population is inevitable but that the best models for encouraging more children, are those that embrace the equality of women. The Scandanavian countries have the highest birthrates in Europe and also the most family inclusive policies that encourage work/life balance and a women’s role in the workforce, even after she has had children. 

Of course the modern world makes it less appealing for women to have 14 babies. And once an educated woman has been in the work force and living a very independent life, why would she want to be at home only caring for the household and the children? Now some women may want this and most women don’t even have the option but I believe that most of us would like to balance both worlds. And that balance can be achieved through government support for initiatives that make this balance possible and of course the involvement of men as equal partners in the whole endeavor. 

The author goes on to say that the U.S. population is at a high not seen since the 1960s. He says it’s due to the flexibility of the American working environment. I think what he was saying is: “There’s lots of work in the States so it’s easy to get a job even after taking a few years off to be a stay-at-home mom.”

My question is this: where is the population increase in the States? Let me save you the trouble…It’s not in the blue areas. So you can’t say that religion and the rise of fundamentalist Christians are not having a HUGE impact on this population increase.  Just like in most Muslim countries, populations are growing because it is a woman’s duty to bear fruit. Telling people they can’t use birthcontrol and have to produce god’s will is a good population strategy. And the U.S. is definitely voicing those opinions loud and clear.

[In fact, sometimes I think producing a little liberal, feminist army of children to fight against the growing conservative religious front is the best argument I have ever heard for reproduction]

Anyway….my vote is for making a more equal world for men and women so that they can work together, clean together, rear and raise children together and be happy in both roles and bask in the glory of a nice balance. 

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Three Cheers for Morgentaler and his Order of Canada….

Sometimes I am just so proud to be a Canadian!!!!! Thank goodness, amidst all the religious and conservative babble, good things can still happen for good people in our country. 

This award represents the progressive, equal, free, independent from religion, and truly marvelous country that I LOVE being a part of.

If you don’t like abortions, don’t have one. For the rest of our female population, if someone requires an abortion, thanks to humans like Morgentaler, they don’t have to use a coat hanger.

Nuff said…

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To C or not to C-Section

There really has been a flood of articles about C-Sections since the OBGYN society of Canada decided that they needed to put out a big press release/warning. Interestingly, the press treat the rise in c-sections like every Canadian getting one is a Posh Beckham wannabe trying to schedule her birth after her morning meeting and before her night out on the town. 

Truth is, if we want to decrease c-sections, we should promote nutrition, since obesity seems to be the leading cause. And of course, women are having babies later in life. Well, if they require a c-section, then so be it. It’s reality. Don’t discourage that or Canada will cease to even exist. We can’t afford an even lower birthrate. 

I find it very strange that all of a sudden, there is all this talk of the increased risks to the mother and baby. Funny, since the only OBGYN I know, just gave birth to her first baby via scheduled c-section in Toronto and she told me, and I quote, “I don’t know why any woman would ever have a vaginal birth. It’s way easier to have a c-section, and you have way less stretching and pain. It’s the only thing I would do.” Hmmmmmm…..

Now I was all, “go c sections” for a long time, till I had a conversation with a mom, whose feminism I respected, and she mentioned the fact that really women’s bodies know what to do when it comes to birthing. Their kindof wired for that shiz and they should not be challenged by modern technology.

Point taken….

My husband was bottle fed because in the late 70s they thought that formula was better than breast milk. Ummm…Not quite. (But to all the breast feeding nazis, he hasn’t yet died from ashma, low IQ, allergies, or all those other doomsday formula disorders…..).

But really, a step in a direction to make women more at peace with their bodies is always a good one. But how about, instead of claiming all these horrific risks that women are taking with their health and their babies, let’s put out some warm fuzzy information about childbirth.

How about promoting vaginal births, providing more education around childbirth, encouraging and respecting midwives and doulas for the wickedness that is them. In Holland, childbirth is not even considered a medical procedure and almost all Dutch women give birth at home. Now, I would pass on that one, who wants to clean up that mess? But I think it demonstrates the fact that society has a lot of influence on what flies. And we tend to be creatures of the latest fashions.

A good friend of mine was reading this hippie book from the 70s when she got pregnant. She didn’t want to read page after page of mind numbing ‘information’, instead, she wanted to read about how many women have very intense albeit wonderful birthing experiences. Complete with retro pictures, from back when women’s bushes were so gigantic it’s hard to imagine how they got pregnant through all that jungle, the book had some really good advice. The jist:

Women have been having babies for like….forever. And women in their forties, where popping out number 10 and 11 at one point and so we really need to have some faith in what these bodies of ours can do. And maybe being put down by a most likely male doctor, to have the baby extracted is not so necessary. But hey, if that’s your thing, do it sister, but maybe have a gander at the smiling 70s broads before hand, may help you feel some positive juice. Cause hey, if you have seen a birth on TV in fiction land, you of course think it’s the most horrifying thing possible but some women actually get off on the pain. (Yes the book actually goes into this and even provides a picture, but why not imagine that outcome instead of the alternative???). 

So how about it? Less “WOMEN: YOU ARE RISKING YOUR HEALTH AND ENDANGERING YOUR UNBORN BABIES…!!!!!!!” And more “Go babies, go babies, go vaginal, let me hear ya, you can do it, you’re wicked, go babies, out the birth canal, you go girl.”

Just a thought…..

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Shitty people

So two women filed a human rights complaint against a comedian in Vancouver. WTF? Isn’t part of a comedians job to offend everyone or at least offend some people. Come on. And apparently, the women went in to the show, sat in the front (ummmm…..that’s where you get picked on ladies) and then started heckling the guy (uhhhh, sorry but if you heckle, you’re fair game). 

The women, both lesbians, are claiming that he humiliated them and discriminated against them for their sexual orientation. 

I like, accused homophobe Guy Earle’s response:”I don’t care if they’re lesbians, heterosexuals, homosexuals or giraffes.”

What a big waste of the Human rights tribunal’s time. It’s so ridiculous. Comedians are there to make fun or everything and everyone and if you don’t like the jokes, leave. 

But I’m sure, thank to these women with a grudge, Guy Earle will sell many more tickets to his shows. Ahhh Irony…

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