All over the world, people are staying single and childless in record numbers.

Recently, an Iranian state-owned company tells employees to get married or get fired. The company believes that married men are better behaved and so everyone better be married by September or they will lose their jobs. This comes as a result of record breaking numbers of single 20-somethings in the country.

In Iran, like pretty much everywhere in the world, more and more people are choosing not to get married. Kindof like how they are choosing not to have kids or to have only one and pushing it: two.

When will politicians realize that until they make domestic life better for women and men, and until they make it possible for women to have lives outside of domestic life, women will not want husbands and children to feed and clothe and take care of just cause it is supposed to be their biological predisposition.

As women are gaining power, as in money from jobs, all over the world, the marriage rate is decreasing. India has a huge workforce of women who are choosing to stay single. They can now provide for their extended families by answering your AirCanada questions over the phone. Who needs an arranged marriage and a butt load more chores when you can work your English and turn it into a nice new handbag. (And not to say our economic imperialism and outsourcing are good, but new economic opportunities are changing many women’s lives for the better).

We have seen that in the Scandinavian countries, and even in the province of Quebec, when you create more daycare spots and make it easier for MEN and WOMEN to work and have children, couples choose to have more children. It’s not fucking rocket science.

Most women either can’t afford to stay home and not work, or they really don’t want to just stay home and not work at all. And so, how about, instead of threatening their jobs, like in Iran, paying them thousands of dollars, like in Russia, or making them marry fundamentalist Christians who force them to stay home and pump out 14 home-schooled children, like in the red states, we concentrate on family policies that make life better for a couple who want to balance work and family, together, with the help from the state for daycare and appropriate vacation time, mat and pat leave, health care, etc.

Seriously, until the men in power figure this out, their countries populations will continue to decline. The way it worked in the 50s will never ever return. So, let’s bring dad into the family picture and let’s bring mom into the workforce picture and start making some real changes in policy, without threats, payoffs or the banning of birthcontrol.

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2 responses to “All over the world, people are staying single and childless in record numbers.

  1. WOMEN AND MEN WILL ALWAYS BE UNHAPPY IF THERE ARE MARRIED, AND HOWEVER IF THEY NEVER BEEN MARRIED, AND STAY THAT WAY THEY WILL BE HAPPY FOREVER, I CHOSE TO STAY A SINGLE MAN FOR FOREVER, NO-ONE-WILL-EVER-SCREW-MY-LIFE-UP, WOMEN & MEN WHO THINK LIKE THIS, “WILL NEVER HAVE A PROBLEM WITH EACH OTHER SO LONG AS THEY STICK TO THERE GUNS FOR FREEDOM OF RESPECT FOR ONE ANOTHER”.
    WOMEN AND MEN DON’T NEED EACH OTHER IN MARRIGAE TO BE HAPPY, BUT HOWEVER BE HAPPY WITH BEING FRIENDS IF THEY CAN DO WITH REPECT OF EACH OTHERS—- FREEDOM, IF NOT THEN THEY CAN NEVER BE FRIENDS, AND PROBALTY IT WE BE THAT WAY FOR MOST WOMEN AND MEN, THATS SAD BUT THE UGLY TRUTH ABOUT WOMEN AND MEN.

    THE TRUTH IS WOMEN AND MEN REALY DON’T LOVE EACH OTHER ANYWAY, BUT THEY THINK THEY DO, BUT IT’S ALWAYS CONIDITIONAL LOVE, SUBITITTIED FOR UNCONIDITIONAL LOVE WHICH NEVER WAS REAL IN THE FRIST PLACE, IT A ILLUSION OF GENITIC INDIFFERENCTS ABOUT UNCONIDITIONALY LOVE.
    UNCONIDITIONAL LOVE REALLY DOESN’T EXIST IN HUMANS BECAUSE OF OUR WAYS OF CONIDITIONS OF LIFE, THAT WAY MEN AND WOMEN THINK THEY CAN BE FRIENDS, WHEN IN REALITY THEY USE EACH OTHER FOR SELFISH GAINS. WOMEN AND MEN CAN GET WHAT THEY WANT WITHOUT HURTING EACH OTHER, SCENTS WOMEN AND MEN CAN REALLY NEVER LOVE ONE-ANOTHER IT’S BEST TO SAY RESPECT EACH OTHER AND LIVE FOR YOURSELFS WITHOUT MAKING PROBLEMS FOR EACH OTHER.

  2. shadowspring

    Wow. I think you must not spend any time with people who are different from you. Their is danger in only spending time with people you agree with, and that is that you lose perspective.

    I couldn’t disagree with you more. I have been married twenty-plus years and everything about our relationship keeps getting better, even when we didn’t believe it could get any better. We are very happy to be married, and looking forward to being there for each other even at the moment of death for whoever goes first.

    That kind of loyalty and commitment is rare among younger people, but not because of economics. It’s really just because you guys are so stinking selfish you are incapable of this kind of long-lasting rewarding relationships.

    That’s why you choose childlessness too. It’s totally based on your preoccupation with being good to your self and hoarding all the wealth you can for yourself. Higher values like love, wonder at the beauty of nature, gentleness, creativity, human kindness, etc. are the values that motivate people to have children and share this good life with future generations.

    I feel sorrow that the true beauty of life is hidden from so many of you and your peers, but I actually take comfort in the fact that you are choosing not to have children. It is a dead-end way of life and it really doesn’t deserve to be perpetuated to another generation.

    Incidentally, just ran into a twenty-something new mother who eagerly left her job as NICU nurse to care for her new born child. She is recently married (2 yrs) though she and her husband have been a couple for closer to five years. She was radiantly happy. I think she knows what’s truly important in life, and she did not regret at all her choice to leave her job.

    I hope you find the same happiness in life, though I am not advocating that you find it in the same place. I wish everyone could be as happy as she is, for whatever reason.

    Peace.

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